KATE & STEVE
Beloved friends and family, good evening.
We are gathered together today to witness the union of Kate and Steve, and celebrate with them their joy as they dedicate themselves to one another in loving matrimony.
Marriage is the promise between two people who love each other, who trust that love, who honor one another as individuals in that togetherness, and who wish to spend rest of their lives together. It
enables the two separate souls to share their desires, longings, dreams, and memories, their joys and sorrows, and to help each other through all uncertainties of life.
It would usually be really poor form to ask your roommate if you could date his little sister, and in a city like New York, it would probably be easy enough to find another girl- or four and a half million of them. But Steve had known Kate since they were very small, and now, fully grown, could not help falling for her. The feeling was mutual. Nobly, Steve asked Matt and David if it was okay if he asked their sister out, but her brothers were already onto them both! Luckily, it was fine by them, and things went very well from there, despite Steve stepping on Kate's toes trying to kiss her on their first date!
Their relationship progressed quickly- I guess that's what happens when you've known one another almost your whole lives! But Kate says it didn't really become real... until they bought their sofa together. And it became even more real than that when they decided to enter the Diamond Dash against 650 other couples. And they won! I guess when you win a diamond ring, you don't have any options left. Steve got down on one knee, then and there, and proposed!
Needless to say, Kate said yes.
When I asked Steve what he loves most about Kate, his first reply was “besides everything?” From her infectious giggle, to her ability to get him to loosen up, his adoration is vast. He said to me that a good friend of his once said to him, with regard to his relationship with Kate, that they were “the success story". They were two of the last guys living the "single life" in NYC, watching all of their friends marry off, and coasting through relationships figuring there was no one really out there for them. And what he really meant was not so much that Steve found someone, but that he found someone so ridiculously right for him that there was never a doubt in anyone's
mind. She fit right in with his friends and family, he fit right in with her friends and family, and they are truly best friends who are just happy to be together all the time. That friend's words have stayed in Steve's mind for years, every time he thinks about how lucky
he is to be the "success story".
Kate says, she loves that Steve is a genuinely kind person. He will do anything for his friends and family. She loves that he is a perfectionist, and an amazing uncle to her niece and nephews. She loves his sense of humor and his ability to be silly. She loves his dance moves, his creativity, and indeed, their history of scavenger hunts! But mostly, she says, she loves that she gets to call him hers. She says, building a life with Steve over the past five years has been the most incredible experience. They are best friends and can't live without one another. They always joke around that he was the first to say I love you and that it took her a little bit longer to express her feelings. However, she says, she knew from very early on in their relationship that she was going to spend the rest of her life with him.
So let's start the rest of your lives right now.
At this time, I would like to invite Kate's
childhood friend Cynde to come up and share with the
couple, The Key to Love.
The key to love is understanding...
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken
but those unspoken gestures,
the little things that say so much by themselves.
The key to love is forgiveness...
to accept each others faults and pardon
without forgetting, but with remembering
what you learn from them.
The key to love is sharing...
Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad,
both conquering problems, forever searching
to intensify your happiness.
The key to love is giving...
without thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile,
and by giving in but never giving up.
The key to love is respect...
realizing that you are two separate people, with
that you don't belong to each other,
that you belong with each other, and share a
The key to love is inside us all...
It takes time and patience to unlock all the
that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that
demands a lot of work...
but the rewards are more than worth the effort...
and that is the key to love.
Before the vows are spoken, Steve would like to say a big hello to his grandparents, Vera and Melvin Bloom, who are here with us today, and are joining us from the front row via the wonders of technology from Greenville, South Carolina. May they feel the
burgeoning love and joy that radiates from this day, as another branch is added to their family tree.
[Take up vodka, pour the shots, and Kate and Steve
Vera, Melvin, cheers to you. We are so glad you could be here.
And further still, on behalf of Kate's Jewish heritage today, I would like to say Bracha veHazlaha. Blessings to you, and much success. We are sheltered beneath a beautiful chuppah which was built by Steve with the help of his Uncle Jack. In Jewish tradition, the chuppah is a symbol of the home you will someday build together, and this chuppah will one day adorn the yard of that home. Also, we will be breaking a glass at the end of the ceremony- so ready your mazel tov's!
Kate, Steve, the words you speak to one another today are a seal, a testament to the bond that you form with one another, and with your families. So too are the rings that you bring before one another this day.
Kate, would you please place Steve’s ring upon his finger and repeat after me? (Kate repeats.)
Together forever and never to part
Together forever we two
And don't you know
I would move heaven and earth
To be together forever with you
Steve, would you please place Kate’s ring upon her finger and repeat after me? (Steve repeats.)
Never gonna give you up,
Never gonna let you down
Never gonna run around and desert you
Never gonna make you cry,
Never gonna say goodbye
Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you
These rings, which have no beginning and no end, symbolize the love and trust between you that will never cease. May their presence on your hands remind you of your love for one another and the vows you have just taken. They have been placed on your finger as a visible sign of the promises which have made you husband and wife, and are a reminder that you are together, even when you are apart. I would like to take a moment to share with the bride and groom the words of Robert Fulgham's
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way.
All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “ You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed, well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time.
Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife.
Kate, I ask you now, before all those gathered here, do you take Steve to be your lawfully wedded husband? Do you promise to love and cherish him, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, so long as you both shall live?
(Kate responds, "I do.")
And Steve, I ask you, before all those gathered here, do you take Kate to be your lawfully wedded wife? Do you promise to love and cherish her, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, so long as you both shall live?
(Steve responds, "I do.")
Then, by the power vested in me by the state of New York, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss the bride.
It is my utmost honor to introduce to you for the very first time as husband and wife, Kate & Steve Corletta!
(Ali places the glass on the ground in front of Steve, then counts down- 3, 2, 1...- Steve smashes the glass- Mazel tov!)