you are full of joy for one another
(duh, why else would you be getting married?)
From that first moment when your eyes locked across the room to now; a ring, a plan, a future. Together. Your ceremony is built nurturing, honoring, and telling that story. Your story. It's our job to bring it to life.
Some elements of a wedding ceremony will always be the same: .you will exchange rings, you will say I do, you will kiss. These we will approach with wording that is fresh and modern, while still upholding the reverence we have for our traditions. Other elements of a wedding ceremony however will be open to wild and wonderful interpretation, lending them new, relevant meaning and playful joy. Unity rituals, readings, memorials, handfastings, ethnic traditions, religious traditions, and even musical interludes are just a brief example of the many beautiful moments you can weave into a ceremony to not just give it meaning, but make it your kind of meaningful.
We are excited to offer you all of the following in a Ritualisms bespoke ceremony:
We'll meet, either in person, or via Skype or the phone if long distance, where we'll go over your paperwork and really get to the root of what you want out of your ceremony. Then once you’ve filled out your homework questions, we piece together, research, and write your ceremony. Once written, we will email you a rough draft which you can tweak as much as you'd like until you're perfectly pleased.
When we get down to the wire, we’ll attend your rehearsal* and we'll walk through the ceremony as many times as needed until you, and everyone else in the bridal party knows what to do and when. If possible, we'll fill out your marriage license then, to get it out of the way before the big day.
Day of the wedding, we arrive in advance with a handcrafted ceremony booklet, which I will read from and then leave with you as a gift, so you'll always be able to remember the words your spoke to one another that day, and can revisit them any time you'd like. Then, we perform the ceremony, and marry you! After the ceremony is complete, we take care of the mailing of your marriage license, so there’s absolutely nothing to worry about.
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Owner & Officiant
I'm not particularly religious, but when my Catholic grandma bullied me into having a blessing ceremony for my newborn daughter (or else), I thought I could write something to satisfy us all. I already had a few years of crafting Pagan rituals under my belt, an interest in theology and cultural anthropology, experience with theater, and a passion for creative writing. With a push from a good friend in the wedding industry, I found myself making a career out of one of the things that make us most human: rituals. In my not-spare time I homeschool my kid, work as an artist, and try to remember where I left my glasses. Have you seen them?
I have always had a way with words, and they their way with me. This lead me to a career as a librarian with a Masters degree not only in Library Science but also in English Literature studies. My favorite narratives have always been works of high fantasy: the deeper, richer, more developed and real the universe is, the more invested I am. Despite this intense fascination with lore and magic however, I have always had a very critical, analytic eye. It’s hard for me to believe in magic in our world. The one place I can consistently find magic and truth coexisting is in the loving relationships I have in my life, and in witnessing them in the lives of others. I am excited to use my professional research skills and love of reading and writing to help create unique and brilliant ceremonies to honor the pure magic of love.
What types of faiths do you work with?
The short answer is: all! We are well versed in beautifully articulated interfaith ceremonies ebbing and flowing with meaningful moments. Our personal beliefs allow us great flexibility when working with other's spiritual paths (or lack thereof!) Whatever your tradition, we’re here to do the work and research it takes to honor and represent you, no matter what you believe.
Are weddings the only kinds of ceremonies you do?
Before we were doing weddings, we had already done Pagan sabbat rituals and baby namings. Now, we’re proud to have worked with repeat clients, first marrying a lovely couple, and then later doing a welcoming ceremony for the new baby! Additionally we’ve worked with covens to lead ritual, and initiate and dedicate members.
Can you legally officiate?
We are legally ordained (technically ministers) and can marry you in the state of New York. Laws vary from state to state, so if you aren't local, contact us and we'll look into what can be done so that we can legally officiate your ceremony. We are an ordained ministers through the Church of Spiritual Humanism, as well as the Universal Life Church. (We are affiliated with no specific religions or spiritual paths).
Do you offer same-sex marriages?
Of hecking course!! It is our honor to both be and work with members of the LGBT community! We are so pleased at long last that this has been legalized and we look forward to honoring each couple that comes our way with big time love and joy!
Can I write my own vows?
YES, we insist! We will gladly work with you to incorporate any personally written statements you wish to use, and would love to offer advice, guidance, or just a sounding board if you're feeling stuck about what to write!
What do you wear?
Our "wedding uniform" is basic black, a dress or a jacket and pants. We may choose to accent in colors complimentary to the chosen color scheme. Our goal is to be classy, appropriate, and unobtrusive to your ceremony and your photos! Want to do something fun or weird? Renaissance costumes, tie die, toe-shoes, we’ve done it all.
Can we just elope?
You know it, let's get out of here. Maybe you don't need a lot of fuss, maybe no one needs to know right now. Maybe you just want to meet in that little special spot in the library or in the park that means to much to you. For a small flat rate of $200 we are willing to drive anywhere in the capital region to meet you, marry you, and get you on your way- short and sweet. Want to go somewhere a little farther? No problem. Ask us about the travel surcharge!
How far will you go?
All ceremony rates include up to an hour's travel from Troy, NY. 1-2 hours travel incurs a Travel Surcharge of $100, 2-3 hours is $200. Want us to go farther? Let's talk and work it out!
Will you stay and eat with us?
It is so kind of you to invite us to stay, and the food sounds amazing. We get asked this question constantly, and while we wish we could say yes to everyone. We typically do not choose to stay for dinner (rehearsal nor reception) unless there’s extenuating circumstances. Once we’ve had the honor to marry you and say congratulations, we’ll be on our way back to our own families for the evening! (But we gotta confess, we might swing through your cocktail hour for a bite for the road!)
*What if something conflicts with our rehearsal?
We do our absolute best to schedule all of our commitments around one another. However, as weekends can be very complicated and hectic in the wedding industry, there is a small chance that someone’s ceremony may overlap with your rehearsal time. In the event that we cannot be onsite for your rehearsal, we will instead work to provide you or your venue coordinator with a point by point version of your ceremony so that everyone knows where they need to be when, and what their cues are. We will then arrive onsite day-of extra early to touch base with everyone. *We cannot attend rehearsals more than an hour away unless lodging in the area the day beforehand.
What is your price breakdown (for a la carte pricing)?
DIY or Template Ceremony, performed, license filed: $200
Scratchwritten ceremony complete with love story recap and personal unity ritual, performed, license filed: $400
Travel 1-2 hrs from Troy, NY: $100
Travel 2-3 hrs from Troy, NY: $200