you are full of joy for one another
(duh, why else would you be getting married?)
From that first moment when your eyes locked across the room to now; a ring, a plan, a future. Together. Your ceremony is built nurturing, honoring, and telling that story. Your story. It's my job to bring it to life.
A ceremony shouldn't sit like the brick weighing down the bottom of the party. Even if all you want is something short and sweet to get you on your way, I'll still make sure it's done with polish and joy.
Some elements of a wedding ceremony will always be the same: .you will exchange rings, you will say I do, you will kiss. These we will approach with wording that is fresh and modern, while still upholding the reverence we have for our traditions. Other elements of a wedding ceremony however will be open to wild and wonderful interpretation, lending them new, relevant meaning and playful joy. Unity rituals, readings, memorials, handfastings, ethnic traditions, religious traditions, and even musical interludes are just a brief example of the many beautiful moments you can weave into a ceremony to not just give it meaning, but make it your kind of meaningful.
Hire me if you're looking for someone down to earth and fun, who can go with the flow, and is flexible to change. Hire me if you're looking for something extraordinary. Hire me if you're alternative, nerdy, a member of the LGBT community, or anything else that might set you apart from the average wedding. The only agenda I have is yours, and I'm not happy until you are! Anything you suggest, anything you dream up, it's yours.
BIG NEWS! Ritualisms is now offering fully styled, all inclusive elopement packages. Check out the Tiny Park Elopements page to learn more!
I'm so excited to offer you all of the following in your WEDDING flat rate of $500:
We'll meet, either in person, or via Skype or the phone if long distance, where we'll go over your paperwork and really get to the root of what you want out of your ceremony. Then I piece together, research, and write your ceremony. Once written, I will email you a rough draft which you can tweak as much as you'd like until you're perfectly pleased.
When we get down to the wire, I'll attend your rehearsal* and we'll walk through the ceremony as many times as needed until you, and everyone else in the bridal party knows what to do and when. If possible, we'll fill out your marriage license then, to get it out of the way before the big day.
Day of the wedding, I arrive in advance with a handcrafted ceremony booklet, which I will read from and then leave with you as a gift, so you'll always be able to remember the words your spoke to one another that day, and can revisit them any time you'd like. Then, I perform the ceremony, and marry you! I After the ceremony is complete, I take care of the mailing of your marriage license.
Want to see what it looks like in action?
Click through below to see a few of my favorite ceremonies, read what others have done, and get inspired for what it is that Ritualisms can do for you!
Wait, tell me more about you!
OH HEY! Really nice to meet you- I'm Ali, and that's me in all those pictures. My favorite things include photo booths, butter, and Hotel California.
I'm not particularly religious, but when my Catholic grandma bullied me into having a blessing ceremony for my newborn daughter (or else), I thought maybe I could make something that satisfied us all. I already had a few years of crafting Pagan rituals under my belt, a deep set interest in theology and cultural anthropology, experience with theater, and a passion for creative writing. With a push from a good friend in the industry, I found myself making a career out of one of the things that make us most human: rituals.
In my spare time I homeschool my daughter, work as an artist, and try to keep the house clean. I can usually only manage two of these things at a time, so warn me before you come over.
What faith do you identify or associate with?
I have worn many hats in my life! I was raised Agnostic in a family divided by Catholicism and Methodism, spent some time as a Born Again Christian, moved on to Paganism, then Atheism, before settling down as a Spiritual Humanist. My relationship with the thing we call 'God' has come in many shapes and colors, which I believe has given me a good box of tools with which to create dynamic ceremonies for one faith or more!
What types of ceremonies do you perform?
The short answer is: all! From short and sweet and out the door, to beautifully articulated interfaith ceremonies ebbing and flowing with meaningful moments, and everything in between, My personal beliefs allow me great flexibility when working with other's spiritualities (or lack thereof!) So whether you're an Athiest who wants to load their ceremony with quotes by Carl Sagan, or you'd like me to dust off my Bible and read to you from the scriptures, I'm here for you, no matter what you believe.
Can you legally officiate?
I am legally ordained (technically a minister) and can marry you in the state of New York. Laws vary from state to state, so if you aren't local, contact me and we'll look into what can be done so that I can officiate your ceremony. I am an ordained minister through the Church of Spiritual Humanism, as well as the Universal Life Church. (I affiliate with no specific religions or spiritual paths).
Do you offer same-sex marriages?
Of course!! It is my honor to work with members of the LGBT community, as I consider myself a member of it! I am so pleased this is at long last legalized and I look forward to honoring each couple that comes my way with bigtime love and joy!
Can I write my own vows?
YES! I will gladly work with you to incorporate any personally written statements you wish to use, and would love to offer advice if you're feeling stuck about what to write!
What do you wear?
My "wedding uniform" is a black jacket, pants, and heels. I may choose to accent in colors complimentary to the bridal party or event. My goal is to be classy, appropriate, and unobtrusive to your ceremony and your photos! Want to do something fun or weird? Renaissance costumes, tie die, toe-shoes, I've done it all and I'm down!
Can we just elope?
You know it, let's get out of here. Maybe you don't need a lot of fuss, maybe no one needs to know right now. Maybe you just want to meet in that little special spot in the library or in the park that means to much to you. For a small flat rate of $200 I'm willing to drive anywhere in the capital region to meet you, marry you, and get you on your way- short and sweet. You can even create your own script from my simple template. Want to go somewhere a little farther? No problem. Ask me about my travel surcharge!
How far will you go?
All ceremony rates include up to an hour's travel from Troy, NY. 1-2 hours travel incurs a Travel Surcharge of $100, 2-3 hours is $200. Want me to go farther? Let's talk and work it out!
Will you stay and eat with us?
It is so kind of you to invite me to stay, and the food looks amazing. I get asked this question constantly, and I wish I could say yes to everyone. I typically do not choose to stay for dinner (rehearsal nor reception) unless there’s extenuating circumstances. Once I’ve had the honor to marry you and say congratulations, I’ll be on my way back to my own family for the evening! (But I must confess, I might swing through your cocktail hour for a little bite for the road!)
*What if something conflicts with our rehearsal?
I do my absolute best to schedule all of my commitments around one another. However, as weekends can be very complicated and hectic in the wedding industry, there is a small chance that someone’s ceremony may overlap with your rehearsal time. In the event that I cannot be onsite for your rehearsal, I will instead work to provide you or your venue coordinator with a point by point version of your ceremony so that everyone knows where they need to be when, and what their cues are. I will then arrive onsite day-of extra early to touch base with everyone. I cannot attend rehearsals more than an hour away unless I'm lodging in the area the day beforehand.
What is your price breakdown (for a la carte pricing)?
DIY or Template Ceremony, performed, license filed: $200
Scratchwritten ceremony complete with love story recap and personal unity ritual, performed, license filed: $400
Travel 1-2 hrs from Troy, NY: $100
Travel 2-3 hrs from Troy, NY: $200